Postpartum: I just want to run away — and that scares me
When the thought 'I just want to get away' shows up, what you need first is safety and a little less shame.
For the next few minutes
Thoughts like this can surface in the postpartum period, especially with sleep deprivation, overwhelm, and constant tension. The fact that the thought scares you often already shows that you don't actually want it — it's a sign that your system is at its limit.
The first step is safety before self-judgment: put baby down somewhere safe, step away for two minutes if you can, get some water, breathe out. Don't stop to question whether you're 'overreacting' first.
If you're afraid of hurting yourself or your baby, this is no longer a quiet app moment. Bring another person in right away — call your midwife, your doctor, an emergency number, or a crisis service. Directly. Without explaining yourself first.
Step by step
1. Put baby down safely
Safety first, not self-evaluation.
2. Create two minutes of space
Water, fresh air, breathe out, text or call someone.
3. Get help immediately if there is any risk
Midwife, doctor, emergency contact, or crisis service.
Common questions
Does having this thought make me a bad parent?
No. A thought born from overwhelm is not a reflection of your character. What matters is making sure everyone is safe and reaching out for help early.
When is it an emergency?
As soon as you're afraid you can't keep the situation safe, or if the thought becomes intense and keeps coming back. Please reach out to real people right away.