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About to make a phone call in a foreign language — and your chest is tightening?

The phone is about to ring and you have to speak in a foreign language — no faces, no gestures, just your voice. Here's how to get ready in 60 seconds.

For the next few minutes

Phone calls are the hardest discipline: no facial expressions, no lip-reading, no checking in with a glance. That's exactly why it feels harder than it is — your abilities are the same, you're just missing the bridges.

Breath first, three rounds: four seconds in, six seconds out. This takes the trembling out of your voice and gives you that first calm tone.

Then have two sentences ready that can save you at any moment: "Could you please repeat that?" and "One moment, let me note that down." With these two sentences, you never lose control of the pace.

And allow yourself to go slower. On the phone, you're allowed to pause, ask again, spell things out. Nobody expects a fluent pace — everyone just wants the information to come across.

Step by step

  1. 1. Breathe 4-6 three times

    Four seconds in, six out. Takes the trembling out of your voice.

  2. 2. Have two lifesaving sentences ready

    "Please repeat?" and "One moment, let me note that down."

  3. 3. Allow yourself to set the pace

    Pausing and asking again are completely normal on a phone call.

  4. 4. Pick up and breathe out once

    That first calm tone carries the rest.

Common questions

What if I can't understand the person on the phone?

Then you say exactly that: "Could you please speak more slowly?" That's not an admission of weakness — it's a normal sentence that native speakers use too.

Should I write everything down beforehand?

Key words yes, full sentences no. A script to read aloud sounds stiff and falls apart the moment the conversation takes a turn. Two follow-up sentences are enough as a safety net.

My voice is trembling.

Speak lower and slower than usual. Trembling is most noticeable with a high, fast voice — both can be changed in five seconds. The breathing round beforehand helps as well.

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