My colleague constantly ignores me — what you can do right now, at the office
You're being ignored right now — and you're still sitting in the same room as that person. Here's one step you can take in the next 60 seconds, without anyone noticing.
For the next few minutes
When your colleague constantly ignores you, it gets to you directly. For this moment, it's enough to clearly name the situation, rather than immediately swallowing it or trying to solve it all at once.
A possible first step isn't to resolve the whole thing. It's about making the next step so small that you can actually take it despite the tension — right now, at your desk, with no preparation.
60 seconds is enough: name the situation, carry out one concrete mini-action, then consciously stop. Nothing more. The beginning is the only thing that counts — everything else follows from there.
If you want to go deeper into the pattern behind being ignored, the "Toxic Colleagues" pack guides you through it step by step. The tool right here on this page builds the next step for exactly your current situation.
Step by step
1. Take one conscious breath out
A single exhale interrupts the reflex and gives you a second of distance before you react.
2. Name the situation in one sentence
Tell yourself internally what's happening — concretely and without judgment, for example: "My colleague didn't address me in the meeting again."
3. Start the tool
The Boundary Generator tool below uses your input to determine which next step fits your exact situation right now.
4. Stop after 60 seconds
Consciously close off the step and let it be — what comes next, you'll decide with a clearer head.
Common questions
Does a 60-second step really help when my colleague constantly ignores me?
It doesn't resolve the underlying pattern — but it can briefly interrupt the acute standstill. That's its only purpose. You work on the pattern itself afterward in the pack.
Can I do this in the middle of the office without anyone noticing?
Yes. The micro-step is deliberately kept small enough to work unobtrusively at your desk — no need to step away, no visible reaction required.
Do I need the Dojitai app to use the tool?
No. The tool runs directly here on this page. The app is an option if you'd like to keep going beyond the acute moment.